Morrie&Me | Book review: The subtle art of not giving a f*ck
The subtle art is the ultimate self-help book for people who hate self-help books. It's all about self-improvement through engaging and improving upon problems and learning to accept the occasional unhappiness that's part of life. This approach is different from almost all books I read about this topic and I also really appreciate this book because of Mark's humor and witty writing. He's bold, sarcastic, funny, raw and real and that’s what makes this book so powerful.
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The subtle art of not giving a fuck

Book review : The subtle art of not giving a f*ck

 

written by Mark Manson, published by HarperCollinsPublishers
genre self-help / personal development, 204 pages

I guess it’s not possible that you haven’t seen or heard about ‘The subtle art of not giving a f*ck – a counterintuitive approach to living a good life’ because it’s one of those number one bestselling books that keep on showing up wherever and whenever there can be found books, or just one book, or no books at all. For a long time everywhere I looked I stumbled upon this ugly orange book cover and although trends like these usually demotivate me of checking something out, somehow the title made me curious enough to give it a go anyway.

Even though everybody and his grandmother already heard all about this book, I decided to write a review anyway. Not because it’s a brand new book – as a matter of fact it’s not new at all and earlier this year the writer already published his second book called ‘Everything is f*cked’- but just in case you’re one of the few people that aren’t familiar with Mark and his work and because I think the subtle art of not giving a f*ck is worthy of your attention!

 

Morrie&ME-Review-Subtle-art-of-not-giving-a-fuck

 

The subtle art of not giving a fuck

The subtle art is the ultimate self-help book for people who hate self-help books. It’s all about self-improvement through engaging and improving upon problems and learning to accept the occasional unhappiness that’s part of life. This approach is different from almost all books I read about this topic and I also really appreciate this book because of Mark’s humor and witty writing. He’s bold, sarcastic, funny, raw and real and that’s what makes this book so powerful.

The writer teaches us how to focus and prioritize our thoughts effectively – how to pick and choose what matters and what does not matter based on finely honed personal values. He presents the idea of not giving a fuck as a simple way of reorienting our expectations for life and choosing what is important and what is not.

 

‘The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more;
it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about
only
what is true and immediate and important.’

– Mark Manson

 

Mark explains how happiness comes from solving problems. To be happy we need something to solve. Happiness is therefore a form of action; it’s an activity. It’s a constant work-in-progress, because solving problems is a constant work-in-progress – the solutions to today’s problems will lay the foundation for tomorrow’s problems and so on. This may sound depressing, but to me it’s actually part of the beauty of life.

If suffering is inevitable and if our problems in life are unavoidable, then the question we should be asking is not “How do I stop suffering?” but “Why am I suffering – for what purpose?” This way the writer points out that it’s important to nail down some good values and metrics, then pleasure and success will naturally emerge as a result, as they are side effects of good values.

 

‘Wanting positive experience is itself a negative experience;
accepting negative experience is a positive experience.’

– Mark Manson

 

Our values determine the metrics by which we measure ourselves and everyone else. If you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and how you measure failure and success. When we have poor values – that is, poor standards we set for ourselves and others – we are essentially giving fucks about the things that don’t matter, things that in fact make our life worse. Therefore self-improvement is all about prioritizing better values; choosing better things to give a fuck about.

 

‘When you give better fucks,
you get better problems and you get a better life!’

– Mark Manson

 

Additionally Mark offers us five counterintuitive (unconventional & uncomfortable) values, that are the most beneficial values one can adopt:

  • Responsibility : taking responsibility for everything that occurs in life, regardless of who’s at fault, no matter the external circumstances.
  • Uncertainty : the acknowledgement of your own ignorance and the cultivation of constant doubt in your own beliefs.
  • Failure : the willingness to discover your own flaws and mistakes so that they may be improved upon.
  • Rejection : the ability to both say and hear no, clearly defining what you will and will not accept in your life.
  • Contemplation of one’s own mortality : perhaps the only thing capable of helping us keep all our other values in proper perspective.

 

For more info about Mark Manson visit his website or find him on twitter or instagram. Want to know more about the publisher? Take a look here.