The Crossroads Of Should And Must
Book review : The Crossroads Of Should And Must
written by Elle Luna, published by Lev. / Bruna Uitgevers
genre self-help / personal development, 168 pages
One of the things that I really like about the internet is that everybody has the opportunity to share their thoughts and ideas. In this overload of information that every day gets thrown upon the internet, every now and then something hits a special chord and gets viral. This also happened when Elle Luna published an essay on medium.com called ‘The crossroads of should & must’. It was a regular Tuesday morning in 2014, but within a couple of weeks time the essay had been tweeted to over 5 million people and was read by over a quarter of a million.
Something was different about this essay and Elle decided turn the essay into a book at the end of the year; the book that I have found in a library at the other side of the world. A book that is as relevant today, as it was five years ago.
‘The crossroads of should and must’ (or in Dutch ‘Op de tweesprong van moeten en willen – wat doe je en wat wil je echt?’) challenges us to start listening to our inner voice. That voice we all know, but all too often ignore. Mostly because the outcome might not lead to earning as much money as possible. It might not lead to the life we always thought we wanted or the life we think we should want. In short; it might not lead to the familiar, the path most taken.
But listening to that inner voice might bring us joy and happiness and most of all fulfillment. You might go for a calling instead of a career. You might choose for a life people don’t expect you to live, a life other people think is impossible, your life … I guess you get the idea.
Of course there are many books that dig into the exact same topic Elle’s book is all about, and I actually read quite a lot of those books but still I liked to have read this one too. What struck me most was the question whether you have a job, a career or a calling. Those are three different things, but I’m sure many people couldn’t really tell the difference.
Although I studied at an art academy and that way already made the decision years ago to go for a future I like instead of one that pays most. Years later I have to keep reminding myself to choose happiness over money. Because as soon as you enter the job market, the reality of people building a career instead of following their heart and passion, is constant and overwhelming.
Reading books and essays on this topic helps me to keep walking my own path. They help to choose a job that suits my character, ideals and talents best, and to live life according to my own beliefs. ‘The crossroads of should and must’ did exactly that, in a light way, with practical examples and quotes. It’s a book you can read within one morning or evening, but might like to pick back up again to read some of the quotes or to look at the illustrations. It’s fun, it’s colourful and it’s full of positive inspiration. A book that deserves your attention.